Uncertainty is all around us, never more so than today. Fear of uncertainty can drain you emotionally and push you in a downward spiral of endless “what-ifs”. No matter how much we say and believe that we take life as it comes, we fool ourselves at times. As human beings, we crave security. We want to feel safe and have a sense of control over our lives and well-being. We’re all different in how much uncertainty we can tolerate in life, but we are in the same boat of randomness. At least, what appears to be randomness.
Steve Jobs said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” What we perceive as chaos is a small part of a huge puzzle. No wonder it is confusing! We’re ready for what we’re ready for when we’re ready for it. The life unfolds in mysterious ways, when we are ready for the next step, the path will appear. If the lesson you were supposed to learn that you didn’t learn, the fog will not settle, and the path will not appear. It is all about walking on faith. It’s all about trusting the unseen.
Uncertainty | embrace it
Trying to force new parts of ourselves to emerge before they’ve had enough time to marinate will only lead to frustration and disappointment. When we’re feeling fearful – that things might not work out, that maybe we’re not capable, that it might be painful like it was before – we tend to start forcing. Bulldozing our way through instead of growing through what we are going will narrow our thinking, and we will miss out on vital feedback that life would be giving us to improve.
Identify your uncertainty triggers. Some uncertainty can be generated by external sources like news, social media, etc. Others are self-generated, through excessive worrying or a pessimistic outlook. Recognize the triggers, stay away from them as much as you can and focus on your gratitude list.
Stop resisting the feedback, the growth. When the circumstances are right, that bud will open without an ounce of forcing required. You can just keep showing up, trust the process, and enjoy life’s unfolding.
Maturity, one discovers, has everything to do with the acceptance of ‘not knowing. – Mark Z. Danielewski